Hey, my friend! Welcome to DEEP Talks on Vaptalks, where we share heart-to-heart chats. I’m a guy working in corporate since 2022, learning life’s big lessons. In 2024, I’m here to share them with you to make your life brighter. Today, I’m telling you about my friend VP, how I helped him move on from heartbreak. This is for you, so listen close.
VP was madly in love with a girl. They’d talk for hours, laugh, and dream of a future. He’d say, “Bhai, yeh meri duniya hai.” But then, she changed. She stopped caring, just wanted attention, no effort. When she left, VP’s heart broke. He kept thinking, “Woh kyun chali gayi? Mera kya kasoor?” He was stuck, checking her old texts, feeling lost and empty.
Then, a new girl came into VP’s life, kind, caring, genuinely different. But VP was scared.
“Bhai, agar wahi hua toh? Phir dil tootega,” he told me, his voice heavy.
He couldn’t stop thinking about his past, afraid to try again, judging her as if she’d turn out the same. I could see his pain, and it hurt me too. I knew how wounds from ungrateful people often make us treat good ones unfairly.
I said to him, “VP, sun. Jo chhod kar chale gaye na, unke paas choice thi rukne ki. Agar tumhe pyaar karti, toh woh rukti. Pyaar kabhi chhod kar nahi jaata. Agar woh gayi, iska matlab usne kabhi value hi nahi ki tumhari. Shayad sirf waqt ka maza liya, tumse pyaar nahi kiya, bas act kiya, fake tha. Accept it, bhai, they left you. That’s the truth. And jo jaata hai, usse jaane hi dena chahiye.” Often, we fall into relationships because of FOMO, seeing everyone in love in movies, wanting that, and ending up with the wrong person.
VP wiped his eyes, silent. I continued, “Tum usse pyaar mein nahi the, tum ek imagination se pyaar mein the. Tumne socha tha, agar woh waise hoti jaise tum chahte, toh kitne khush hote tum dono. Lekin reality alag he. They were not what you dreamed, and that’s why they left. Ab samajh: usne tumse kabhi waise pyaar kiya hi nahi, warna rukti.”
He looked at me with pain, “Par bhai, kaise bhoolu? Dar lagta hai fir se.”
I smiled gently, “Bunny, darr sabko lagta hai. Lekin naye insaan ko tum mauka doge toh hi tumhe pata chalega ke woh sahi hai ya galat. Apna 100% do, jaise pehle diya tha. Lekin iss baar usko jo tumhari value karta hai. Don’t punish a good person just because an ungrateful one treated you badly. Don’t stay stuck in the past, bhool jao usse. Woh tumhari story ka ending tha, yeh tumhari nayi story ki shuruaat hai.”
I leaned forward, “Give your love to the one who respects it. The same love tumne ek bewafa ko diya, ab ek caring insaan ko do. She deserves that effort. See how she treats you after knowing your past wounds; she heals you instead of hurting you. That’s the difference between fake and real.”
VP listened quietly. Slowly, he started talking to her, letting his guard down. She cared for him truly, put effort into small things, unlike the last one, who only took without giving.
Over time, he laughed again. He felt peace. And today, VP is so happy, he’s getting married to her. With tears of joy, he told me,
“Bhai, agar woh na chhodti na, main isse kaise milta, Usne jaake mera accha hi kiya. Yeh meri wali hai, dil se dil tak pyaar karti hai. Ab samajh aaya, Bhagwan ka plan perfect tha. Jo gaya, uska jaana zaroori tha. Chalo accha hua, warna main isse kaise paata.”
He finally saw God’s plan: everything happened for good. And this time, he doesn’t regret a thing.
I’m talking to you, my friend. Maybe your heart is broken, maybe you’re stuck on someone who never truly cared. I feel your pain. I’ve seen VP’s tears. But listen, don’t waste your life on someone who left. That heartbreak happened for a reason. God has a better plan for you.
The problem is, when someone bad hurts us, we often punish the good ones who come later. We judge them through our past wounds. We don’t want to give them a chance because our heart whispers, “What if it happens again?” I know, it’s easy to say “forget and move on,” but very difficult to do. How can you forget someone with whom you had planned your whole life? Being with someone new feels uncomfortable, even painful, because your mind still clings to the old dream.
But you must understand one thing clearly: the person who left you, left because they had no value for you. If they truly loved you, they would have stayed, no matter what. Love never walks away. Most of the time, we’re not really in love with them, we’re in love with our imagination of what life could have been if they stayed, if they acted the way we hoped. From your side, the love was real. But from theirs? Was it real, or just fake? Were they really serious, or just acting so you would fall, only to enjoy their time and then leave?
Many times we fall into relationships out of FOMO, we see everyone in love around us, we see movies, we crave that feeling, and in the rush, we end up with the wrong person. Accept this truth. They left. They never truly loved you. Stop holding onto someone ungrateful.
Instead, give a chance to the one who actually values you, who is trying for you. Don’t treat them badly just because someone else hurt you. They also deserve the same effort, the same love, the same care you once gave to the ungrateful person. And you deserve love too. If you involve yourself, open up, and give them a chance, you might find something better, like VP did. One day you might also say, “Chalo accha hua woh chali gayi, nahi toh main ise kaise milta?”
Yes, it’s scary. “Dar lagta hai fir se heartbreak hone ka.” But remember, sab ek jaise nahi hote. You have one life. Why waste it in the memories of some ungrateful person who never valued you? Choose someone who respects you, who values your emotions, who cares for your wounds and still treats you better.
Think about it, you won’t get this life again. Don’t judge new people by your past. Treat them well, give life another chance, and never regret. Mistakes happen, but what matters is accepting them, letting go, and moving forward. Because if you don’t try, how will you ever know what’s better for you?
This is DEEP Talks, you and me, feeling together. Let go of that old pain. Tell me in the comments what’s one step you’ll take to move on? I’ll read every word. Next time, we’ll talk about finding peace in tough days. Stay with Vaptalks for corporate stories and these heart chats. So, what’s your next step? Let’s live free, together.
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